I have a history of setting ridiculously high expectations for myself and then beating myself when I fail. Also, I’m time short, and incredibly busy with loads of really important stuff. Oh yeah, and I also have a Netflix account.
You know the deal. You make yourself a list of promises and full of gusto, join a gym, commit to a diet (for real this time) and vow to make eye contact with your seven year old when he interrupts that crucial email to fill you in on the latest Pokemon news.
Three days in and it’s already gone pear shaped!
Now I make the same two resolutions every year:
To give up smoking – easy as I’ve never smoked so I always smash this one!
To make out with my husband more – also easy and fun!
One year I stepped up the challenge level and I gave up shoulding on myself.
The word ‘should’ implies shame and as my dear old nan would say, ‘Shame seeds don’t grow palm trees’. So instead of saying ‘I should work out more’, ‘I should eat healthier’ or ‘I should gently explain why we don’t pretend the cat is a set of bagpipes’ (to my youngest – my husband learned the hard way) I switched out ‘should’ for the phrase ‘would like to’. It’s a tiny shift but that intention made a world of difference to how I thought and felt and what I said and did.
Every year, I run through this simple toolkit to look at the last twelve months and take in what I want to do more and less. This year I’m sharing it with you! It’s a springboard for setting you up to win.
Oh, and the great news for those who share my Netflix habit – it will take you slightly less than one episode of The Crown to complete.
Click the button below and get stuck in!